Living the life you want isn’t the cause of happiness. It’s the result of it. While at a Toastmasters International meeting, I came right out and said it: “There’s no such thing as happiness.” I complained and griped about how even the sound of the word made my skin crawl and how mad I got when anyone used it.
I concluded my talk by announcing to my audience—people I hadn’t met until that evening—that standing before them and having to use the word had just about ruined my day and my mood. I was seriously cynical. While watching two of Oprah’s shows, on both occasions, I was struck by a guest spending her entire time discussing how happy she was in her life. I assumed that both Tina Turner and Barbra Streisand were lying.
Around the same time, one of my older sisters admonished me for my all-day, everyday sarcastic and pessimistic view of everything.
At first, I couldn’t see it. But, over time, I began to pay attention to what my mind was doing, and finally, I realized that my sister was right. I didn’t have one good thought on any subject.
I use my life as a test to see if Tina and Barbra were telling the truth. My motivation, including my decision to leave my desk job and tap dance for a living, became the search for happiness.
Here’s what I came up with: Happiness, contentment, and fulfillment are yours. You don’t need to wait for something outside of yourself, nor do you need a particular condition or circumstance to create it, even when you’re surrounded by those who think otherwise.
The search so many pursue outside themselves is actually a search we must pursue within ourselves.
Your qualities aren’t static.
You can discover simple ways to make moments and days special and foster positive vibes in a negative situation.
You can, at will, change your thoughts to call upon your version of calm, cool and composed.
Yes. This stuff takes practice, which if you’re a dancer, you know very well how to do.
With practice, deliberate and conscious shifts in perception will happen, offering a peace that passes human understanding.
Cherish your faith in miracles. You’re the miracle. Stop looking.